A Space for Men

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Dear Friend,

If you’re here because a relationship feels uncertain, a separation has unsettled you, or the internal noise has grown louder at a point where decisions feel heavy, this page is for you.

This page is a collection of articles for men. I want to share these with you because, for too long, I went without anyone offering me a plain, steady perspective.

I’m 47 now. Husband, father, an ordinary man trying to do right by the people around me. At this point, with a clear sense of the road travelled, the contours of life become sharper. Habits, fears, doubts and inclinations that once felt random now show their patterns, especially in how we handle closeness, responsibility, and loss.

For years, if someone asked how I was, I said I was fine. Inside, the noise was loud. I struggled to speak honestly with myself, let alone open anything up to someone else, particularly when relationships were strained or expectations felt unclear.

Looking back, I wish I’d spoken more plainly in my twenties, seen myself without distortion in my thirties, and stopped being so scared of getting it wrong. So now, in my forties, I try to be the man I once needed. Someone steady. Someone who listens. Someone who speaks only when it’s useful, especially when another man is trying to work out what to do next.

The articles on this page come from experience: my own mistakes, the therapeutic work I’ve done with men, and the quiet conversations about what it means to carry responsibility when relationships shift, certainty fades, and the script no longer fits.

Most men I meet carry far more than they admit, even to themselves.

What follows is a growing collection of pieces for men who want to see themselves more clearly and stop living on half-volume, particularly when relationship strain or separation has left them unsure of their footing. I hope something here helps you find a clearer footing.