About Anxiety Master
Meet Dominic Decker, the psychotherapist behind Anxiety Master, and read about the experience and thinking that inform his work with relationship difficulties and separation.
I’m Dominic Decker, a British-registered psychotherapist and the founder of Anxiety Master.
I work with individuals and couples facing relationship difficulties: recurring conflict, lost trust, uncertainty about staying together, and the upheaval that follows separation.
Anxiety Master brings that work into a resource you can read and return to, with time to consider what applies to your own circumstances.
Why I created Anxiety Master
Couples’ work became the most common reason people contacted me. Time and again, I met people struggling to discuss what was happening between them without the conversation becoming another source of hurt.
Some wanted to repair their relationship. Others were unsure whether they wanted to continue, or whether meaningful change was still possible.
When I looked at guidance online, I found plenty about improving communication and intimacy, alongside headlines that encouraged readers to label their partner. I wanted to give more attention to the difficult decisions in between: when something is wrong, there is still much at stake, and neither staying nor leaving feels straightforward.
Children, shared finances, housing and attachment can make these decisions particularly difficult. Anxiety Master offers a place to examine the problems, the possibilities for change and the consequences of each choice. It also addresses what comes afterwards, when a relationship has ended, and everyday life needs to be rebuilt.
The experience I bring
I have spent 25 years working across social services, education and therapeutic settings, including more than ten years as a therapist. I am also a qualified teacher and a Registered Member of the Human Givens Institute.
My earlier work included homelessness, probation, mental health supported living, relapse prevention, and support for families affected by drug and alcohol use.
That experience matters in the counselling room. I am accustomed to hearing difficult things and discussing them directly and respectfully. I also understand how emotional difficulties become entangled with practical demands: earning a living, caring for children, finding somewhere to live and managing responsibilities when already stretched.
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How I approach the work
Borrowed perspective
When you are closely involved in a difficult situation, it can be hard to assess what is happening. I offer an outside perspective, ask questions and help examine assumptions. Understanding your particular circumstances comes before drawing conclusions.
Careful handling
Relationship difficulties involve real attachments and consequences. I take care with the pace of the conversation, the language we use and the conclusions we reach. This includes being direct about problems and giving difficult questions the attention they deserve.
My role is to offer experienced guidance and help you make decisions you can understand and stand behind.